In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.- Martin Luther King Jr.

Remember when we were little kids and how easy it was to make friends. We didn’t have to wade through race, culture, political and religious ideologies. There was no confusion about what being friends meant. It’s no longer easy to answer the question; how many friends do you have? Since entering the digital age the concept of friendship has been compartmentalized to an extent never before seen. In the past, quality trumped quantity and individuals made sacrifices in order to retain true friends. Today we have facebook friends, followers and frienemies.

Social media has unmasked inconvenient truths about true friendship. I have friends that claim they would die for me and yet asking them to click the follow button on my blog is too much to ask. A while back someone claiming to be my friend reached out to another friend to inquire about my welfare. I was told the message was motivated from a genuine concern for me. I said to myself, “Who is it that considers themselves as my friend yet I don’t hear from this person directly? They care for me but not enough to make personal contact.”

I thought I had a firm grasp on the makeup of human beings. But the problem is that I’m also a human being and it’s hard to be objective about oneself. I believe most of us are poor judges of character when it comes to judging ourselves. “But I know myself,” you say? “I can judge others based on the unchanging benchmark I’ve placed on myself.”

I’ve many times fallen into that trap of self deception. It’s self deception because most of us refuse to recognize that we are a constantly changing benchmark. Our mind rationalizes, excuses and adjusts according to our behavior. This is a defense mechanism which enables us to have self esteem. The problem arises when we take this feeling and use it to judge others.

In my new book ‘Metaphysical Man The Don Quijote Of The Digital Age’ I examine contrasting viewpoints on what true friendship entails. Feel like taking an action packed journey into the human psyche? Order your copy of ‘Metaphysical Man The Don Quijote Of The Digital Age’ today! http://smashwords.com/books/view/540303

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williamchasterson

My name is William Chasterson. I’m a writer and a student of history. I was raised in the Midwest of the United States in a very conservative town of about 15,000 people. In my twenties I moved to New York which is where I’ve been for the past 15 years. After the first few years of culture shock I was finally able to settle into my environment and actually consider myself a New Yorker. For the past year however I’ve been living in the third world. I’m not going to mention the name of the country I moved to both for my own safety and because this is not a political blog. The purpose of this blog is to analyze the human psyche and to develop a theory I’ve been slowly formulating my entire life which is that we are all the same. No matter our race, gender, language, or economic status we are all of us equals. While this idea sounds cliche most people’s actions indicate that they don’t really believe it.

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